Understanding how your earliest bonds shape the way you connect — or struggle to connect — today.
Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and expanded by many researchers since, proposes that our earliest relationships — particularly with primary caregivers — create templates that shape how we relate to others throughout our lives. These templates operate largely outside of awareness, influencing how we seek closeness, respond to conflict, manage separation, and experience trust.
People with secure attachment tend to find relationships relatively comfortable and satisfying. Those with insecure attachment patterns — anxious, avoidant, or disorganized — often find that their deepest relationships trigger the most distress. They may find themselves repeating painful patterns without understanding why.
Attachment-focused therapy helps you understand your own attachment patterns, where they came from, and how they manifest in your life today. Perhaps most importantly, it creates conditions in which new experiences of connection and safety are possible — experiences that can gradually update these early templates.
Attachment-focused work is relational at its core. The therapeutic relationship itself is often a primary vehicle for healing — through experiencing a consistent, attuned, and responsive presence, you begin to internalize a new template for what connection can feel like.
Sessions are warm and collaborative. We explore your relational history, your current relationships, and the emotions that arise in connection. This kind of work tends to unfold over time, and many people find it among the most meaningful work they’ve done.
I offer a complimentary 30-minute phone consultation. It’s a chance to talk, ask questions, and see if working together feels right.
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